What about homophobia? I understand phobias to be irrational fears that can disrupt daily life and normal activity. I don't know of any Christ followers caught in that sort of grip regarding homosexuals. In this case phobia must not be clinical, but mean something else. How about this definition, "Homophobes are so afraid of the homosexual lifestyle that they feel uncomfortable around those who practice it." If we can live with that definition, let's go on from there.
In the book we Christians look to for guidance and truth, the Bible, Jesus, is confronted with an alternate sexual lifestyle. A woman caught in the act of adultery is brought to him while he was teaching. The men who caught her demand to know how Jesus will respond, carry out the law, which meant stoning to death or let her go. Jesus sagely offers the first stone to the man who has not sinned. The men walk away from the oldest to the youngest.
He then turns to the woman and asks, "Doesn't anyone accuse you?"
"No sir."
"Then neither do I condemn you. Go and leave your life of sin."
-John 8
Jesus wasn't uncomfortable or irritated by her presence. In fact, he cleared out her enemies, so he could speak directly to her. He treated her gently and with respect.
We Christians can and should treat all of society from that example.
Jesus did call her alternate sexual lifestyle sin. Jesus did encourage her to leave it. Every one of us has some drives that are impure and need to be given to God to control, whether, greed or gossip or pornography or lying, jealously or selfishness. My sin is not any better than anyone else's. In fact, the sin of spiritual pride may be worse.
Thirty-seven states have disagreed with my understanding of homosexual drives. States have misunderstood many moral issues. Public opinion is trending against what I see to be the clear teaching of scripture. I'm sorry public, I've watched your opinion seesaw on all sorts of issues. As a follower of Jesus, I have to stick with what the Bible teaches on homosexuality and gossip and lying, and any other sinful act. I also have to respond as my Lord did to out of bounds sex, "Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more."